Thursday, November 1, 2007

My return...back to reality

Well, what can I say? My adventures in Thailand and the rest of South East Asia are over. I cried with Faren over ice cream the night before I left. I cried in the taxi on the way to the airport in Bangkok. I cried on the plane from Bangkok to Taipei. I cried on the plane from Taipei to Seattle. I cried when the plane landed at the Seatac airport. Then I hugged my mom for the first time in six and a half months, and I have not cried since. I bought my plane ticket only a few days before I left, not for lack of planning, rather simply due to procrastination. I had been seriously considering my return for quite a few weeks, but it was difficult for me to accept.

You may wonder, if it was so hard for me to leave, then why did I? Multiple reasons. Among them, the most important being that I wanted to make it back in time to see my sister who is visiting from her current home in the Cayman Islands. We’ve actually been living on exact opposite sides of the world (when it is noon for her, it was midnight for me) for the last half of the year, and I have not been able to see her for over a year since I had just arrived in Asia on her previous visit. If I didn’t get home quick, it wouldn’t be until her next return in June that my whole family could be together again. In this case, I would probably end up visiting her in the Caymans, but it is not the same as having all five of us under the same roof.

Additionally, a part of me felt like I was ready to move on from S.E. Asia. I successfully experienced everything I had hoped for—teaching, volunteering, traveling, and a whole lot of learning. I am very ready to work (and be paid) again, and I am eager to see other parts of the world. The next destination on my list is South America where I hope to study salsa dancing and Spanish, and find a job that involves tackling local issues and helping the local community. The timing was also optimal as I would hate to miss the holiday season at home. I may have missed my birthday, my graduation, and Sea-fair; but now I get to have Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years!

As most of you probably know, I told almost no one of my return home. Partially because I didn’t really believe it was going to happen until I forced myself to buy the ticket 3 days before my departure. Even then, it didn’t hit me until the airplane took off. Also, I recognized that the absence of any clue of a “return date” is very rare and I may never again have the opportunity to surprise (I just love surprises!) so many people at one time. I couldn’t wait to see the shocked faces when I showed up at some social function when I was believed to be on the other side of the globe until god-knows-when. And every time I have surprised someone, it is just as good as I’d hoped it would be.

One of the first funny little cultural nuances that I experienced upon my return happened when I was simply crossing the street. Faren warned me of this when we were still in Thailand. She said, “you are going to be so surprised when you get back to America and cars actually stop for you when you want to cross the street.” I agreed, but did not think twice about it. On one of my first outings, I was in downtown Kirkland with Solveig and we were waiting to cross the street. Not at an intersection, but at one of those random crosswalks that is only convenient for pedestrians. The cars immediately stopped for us. We barely had to pause before we crossed. I was shocked. There was no red light, stop sign, or intersection and the car STILL stopped. For god’s sake, in Asia, cars don’t even stop at intersections and they barely slow down when they see you crossing the street. Motorbikes don’t slow down at all, they just go around you. While I appreciate the politeness of it all, I don’t appreciate that I can no longer jaywalk, even when the nearest crosswalk is a long block away.

So, this is it. One of my biggest fears in coming home was that everything I’ve experienced over the past 6 and a half months would feel like a distant dream and dissolve into my memory. But it still all feels very real. I can tell that everything I have seen and done lives on in the deepest part of me and continues to influence my daily thoughts. I never needed to be scared that my time in South East Asia would fade away, because I take it with me. I take all of my adventures with me, wherever I am. My learning experiences will continue to make me a better person, as long as I consciously stay aware of everything I have gained. I know it was only upon my return home that I could fully understand this.

And IF I ever do start to forget, I’ll just pull up my blog on the internet. :)

Friday, October 12, 2007


After a 20-something hour bus ride from hell, originating in Hanoi, Faren and I safely arrived at the sleepy capital city of Laos, Vientiane. We started preparing for the worst when we saw a stack of plastic chairs in the aisle way. Usually this is a sign that the "bus men" are planning to pack more people in to the bus as we go, even if that means they have to sit on plastic chairs all night long. Sure enough, we continued to make countless stops through out the trip to load on more luggage and people. Just when we thought it could not get any worse, increasingly more passengers were forced to climb over bags to get to their seats. Somehow the bus men kept finding new ways to pile more luggage into the aisles and back of the bus. Faren and I were the only tourists on this bus and we both had real chairs. I don't think any westerner would ever put up with a plastic chair in the aisle. Hopefully these were discounted seats! So, the ride was extremely cramped. And since I could not put my seat back, it was basically a sleepless night. The entire ordeal was quite miserable and long, but I decided to use my new technique of focusing on what I could be grateful for and how it could all be worse, rather than all the ways we were being screwed (especially when we saw the normal nice tourist buses at the rest stops, which we thought we were going to be on). I know there were a million ways that the ride could have been a far worse. My seat partner was a sweet Vietnamese woman, she could have been a smelly creepy man or a grouchy old woman. Nothing was stolen from me. No fights broke out on the bus (this happened that night on another bus taking the same route). Everything went smoothly at the border between Vietnam and Laos. And most of all, we arrived at our destination safely!

We elected not to stay in Vientiane for long, since there was not a lot to do or see, and there is so much to do and see everywhere else in the country. The morning after we arrived, we left on a bus (this time a nice, spacious, air-conditioned, comfortable bus) for Vang Vieng, a little over 3 hours North of Vientiane. Vang Vieng is famous along the S.E. Asia backpacker route for tubing, which involves sticking your bum into a black intertube to float down the river, gaze at the beautiful mountains, and make frequent stops at some of the many bars for drinking and jumping off of tall wooden platforms into the river, by way of rope swing, zip line, or some other contraption. It was quite an experience and it reminded me very much of something a college fraternity would organize. I can hear it now...what's better than bikinis and booze? I can understand why young people come for miles just to go tubing. It has become something of a Laos-phenomenon, and other parts of the country are catching on and capitalizing on this popular activity. Laos is an under-developed nation rapidly expanding their tourism industry. I'm grateful that I am able to visit this unique country before it becomes westernized and a more mainstream place to travel.

The 6+ hour drive from Vang Vieng to Luang Prabang was absolutely stunning, which made up for the cramped minivan and the twisting mountainous roads (perfect for causing severe car-sickness). I was too nauscious to read my book, so I stared at the beautiful scenery and listened to my iPod to pass the time. The mountains are so perfectly pristine and untouched that Faren and I felt like we had driven right into "The Land Before Time."

Luang Prabang is known as South East's Asia most charming town. And I love it! This small city (walkable from end to end), located on the junction of the Mekong and Nam Kam Rivers, has been a UNESCO World Heritage Site since 1995 to preserve the town's 32 temples, the former Royal Palace, and classic French colonial buildings, which are remnants of the time when Laos was part of France's Indochine colony. Luang Prabang is filled with cafes, eco-friendly travel agents, sweet-as-sugar Laos people, lots of random farm animals roaming the streets, orange-robed monks, and some very beautiful arts and crafts. Better yet, the surrounding area of majestic green mountains, rivers bordered by limestone karst formations, and powerful waterfalls is ideal for outdoor adventures of all kinds. The multitude of travel agents organize tours and treks, ranging from 1/2 day to 3 days long, and include activities such as hiking, elephant riding, biking, kayaking, swimming...the list goes on. There is plenty to do.

On the first afternoon in Luang Prabang, I insisted that we bicycle to the local waterfall, which is about 30 km south of town. Faren was feeling a little under the weather (another sinus infection), but she agreed to go with me because I had so patiently waited for her all morning :) And she was sure glad she did! We started out on the ride with wary attitudes. We'd been told by several people, foreigners and Laos alike, that the bike ride was too long and hard, and we should just take a tuk-tuk or minivan like everyone else (every tour company in town sponsors a trip to the waterfalls every day). But I was stubborn, and I wanted to bike it! Even if we didn't make it all the way, I wouldn't give up until we had at least tried. As I passed a few local boys on the way UP a hill, they asked me where I was going (typical question everywhere and anywhere in S.E. Asia), when I answered enthusiastically "the waterfalls!", the boys laughed. At that moment, I thought to myself, "Ok, fair enough, I'm not even sure if we're going to make it over this giant hill." Obviously it is ideal to have a mountain bike with gears when you are biking in the mountains, but the only extra feature that my $1/day rental road bike had was a wimpy bell. Luckily, the entire road to the falls was well paved, with very few potholes. So, with all of the discouraging remarks, the intermittent light rains, and impending nightfall, Faren and I kind of expected that we would not make it all the way to the waterfalls. We took one hill at a time, fighting our way to the top and soaring down to meet the next one. And somehow, we made it all the way. Needless to say, we were (still are) very proud of ourselves. Even though that boy who laughed at me will never know, I really showed him!

By the time we arrived at the Kuang Si waterfalls, it was dusk and starting to rain again. There was not person remaining in the park. The gateskeeper must have felt sorry for us because he let us in for free. A local young man latched onto us (he wanted to give us and our bicycles a ride back to the city in his tuk-tuk) and proved to be quite a useful tour guide, especially as night quickly fell upon us and left us in the cold, dark, wet woods not exactly sure of the best way to hike back to the village where we had locked up our bicycles. The waterfalls themselves were worth every bit of effort and sweat it took to get there. The biggest fall, massive and breathtaking, gives way to a several tiered pools, each one divided by multiple smaller waterfalls. The pale green-blue water looked eerily mystical at dusk. The trees, growing out of the water and intertwined among the falls, seemed to warn us of the impending danger of nightfall. I was captivated by the sheer beauty of it all, it seemed nothing short of unreal, yet I could reach out with my own hand and feel the coolness of the water against my skin. After we tore ourselves away from the waterfalls, Faren and I accepted that it was too dark and rainy to even consider embarking on the long journey back into town on our bikes and by ourselves. Our new friend's efforts were not in vain, and after some price-haggling, we took him up on his original offer for a ride back into Luang Prabang.

We had a hard time making decisions about our itinerary for the next day. Based on several recommendations, we were determined to find a boat making the trip up the Mekong River to a small village called Nong Khiaw. The scenery on this boat ride is apparently some of the most beautiful in the country. Unfortunately, the boat doesn't leave until there are at least 8 people, or else it is not worth their money, and on this day, we could not find a boat making the trip. So, we caught another tour just as it was leaving (walked by a tour office at the right minute, I suppose) to the nearby Pak Ou caves. This tour took us on a slow boat down the Mekong River to the "cave of a thousand buddhas," stopping at the local whiskey village, where the people make traditional Laos whiskey. The caves were interesting to see for their religious significance and use as Buddhist shrines. We also met some very inspiring people on the boat, including a man whom has travelled (literally) all over the world and a young woman who just spend a year setting up an English language school in Cambodia. Faren and I immediately took the opportunity to pick both of their brains about their experiences and turned this small trip into a multi-leveled learning experience of our own. During this excursion, we found that the beautiful 8 hour boat ride to Nong Khiaw made use of the same flimsy, uncomfortable boat that took us to the Pak Ou caves. There were multiple reasons why we definitely did not want to spend 8 hours on that vessell, including the hard wooden 90 degree angle chairs and the lack of toilets and protection from the weather (it has been raining a lot). There is a minivan to Nong Khiaw, however, after internet research we were able to conclude that perhaps there is not so much to do in that area that we could not do in Luang Prabang. So we decided to cut back on our transit time and book a (local) kayaking trip for the next day instead!

The kayaking trip on Khan Nam River was nothing short of awesome. Our guide, Thuey, was very sweet and the other people were friendly. The rapids were thrilling but never too scary. My kayak never capsized, but others sure did. The scenery was stunning. Thuey loved to sing, and since he was my kayak-partner, I was serenaded many times. Also, as part of the tour, Faren and I chose an "alternative itinerary" of touring a local village with our guide rather than ride the elephants, since we'd already experienced this in Chiang Mai and it is quite expensive. It was a Sunday, so a lot of people were around. The kids were playing at the school yard, women were hanging laundry out to dry, and teenage boys were showering in their underwear outside (and were positively mortified at the sight of 2 western women catching them in the act) while teenage girls were bathing in their sarongs on the other side of town. We made friends with a group of adorable children when we pulled out the camera. They immediately started posing, and followed us as we left the village. Needless to say, the photographs are precious.

Our kayak trip down the river included a stop at the Tad Sae waterfalls. Faren and I may have already been impressed by the Kuang Si waterfalls, but these ones were even greater. And better since we had time to swim in the pools and climb around in some parts. We even decided to return to these falls, on our own without a tour, a few days later to play around and just enjoy the beauty. Which was great except for the part when we almost got stranded at nightfall without a boat ride back down the river. Luckily, we were never completely alone as we had recruited George from Canada to join us. We had accidentally paid the boy who took us across the river the entire round-trip fare. Of course he had no reason to come back, and instead another man "magically" appeared to save us at the perfect moment. From all of our experiences around here, it was obvious to us that he had set up this little arrangement with his friend to get more money out of the vulnerable foreigners. But we weren't having it, and we managed to get our ride back without paying extra. We conveyed to the new boat driver that he would have to get the fare from his friend, to whom we'd already given it. On the other side of the river, we were grateful to see that our faithful tuk-tuk driver was there to pick us up. We had only paid him half of the round-trip fare to ensure that he would be there upon our return. But then, before he would leave, he thought it would be a good idea to demand more money from us. Faren and I are so sick of being tuk-tuk drivers trying to screw us over that we refused and even laughed at his "joke." And in the end, all of our efforts to stick up for ourselves paid off :)

We had a lot of fun in Luang Prabang. We had a wine and dessert night with two new friends whom we met while tubing in Vang Vieng, David from Portugal and Daniel from Chile. We experienced our first Asian bowling alley, also with David and Daniel. We mingled with young Laos people at the discotheque. We found more new friends at our favorite dinner spot (also a very social spot)--a street vendor selling delicious and cheap vegetarian food, buffet style and only $0.50 for one plate. We shopped in the night market for hand made silk scarves, paintings on banana leaf paper, and lots of jewelry. We savored delicious coffee and goodies at the best bakery we've found in S.E. Asia, called JoMa Bakery Cafe (if you ever go to Laos...). We explored the town and surrounding areas on bicycle, stumbling upon a huge real Laos market, where we were stared at like a white person had never been seen in that market before.

From Luang Prabang, we ventured back down to Vientiane on a 12 hour bus ride and had about a day to kill in the capital city of Laos before we were to catch our night bus back down to Bangkok. We rented bicycles to explore the town, which has become one of my favorite pasttimes. Faren calls me a "bicycle fiend." It's the perfect way to see a small city when there is not too much traffic, without being confined to just one area since you are on foot, and without losing your freedom since you are at the mercy of a tuk-tuk driver. Not to mention that it helps us stay active. We've both agreed that we are much more inspired to bicycle in other parts of the world, including in our own hometowns.

After another long overnight bus ride, Faren and I are back where it all started--Bangkok--and ready to have some big city fun...

Saturday, September 29, 2007

Vietnam (part II)

Hoi An

Hoi An is a very old, small, and sweet town in the central part of the Vietnam coast. Cobblestone streets give it a European flair, and the tailor shops outnumber the restaurants, quite a feat for a tourist town. This place is known for the plethora of cheap tailors. You can have clothing tailor-made to your body for prices cheaper than clothes off the rack back in America. I became accustomed to the idea of having suits and dresses tailored while in Thailand. There is a healthy choice of tailors in most popular tourist locations since cheap Thai labor = cheap clothes for Westerners. Faren had a few dresses tailored on Phuket and her boyfriend had a few suits made, but I never got into it. Even though I was aware that Hoi An was heavily saturated with tailor shops, I really had no idea HOW bad (or good?) it would be. And, seduced by the wool coats that would be perfect for the cold Seattle winter (which will seem even colder after spending over 6 months in a tropical climate), I ordered one at the first shop I stopped at. By the end of the first day, this was the only article of clothing I had bought, but I had a lot of ideas forming in my head. So the next day, I splurged. The evening before, I had designed 3 cocktail dresses and yet another coat. This one I wanted to be made of "winter white" wool. I put in these orders first, and then over the course of the day and after looking through countless catalogs, I bought several other items, including black leather boots (also designed by myself!). I know that I got a little carried away, but I could justify most things. Especially the shoes, since they are to replace some at home that have been worn to death. And not only have I been resisting most clothing shopping while in Asia (it was finally time to give in), I won't have to do the usual winter clothing shopping trip this year. I think that Hoi An is probably the best place to do some damage because it is so cheap compared to American prices. Plus, this was the most unique shopping spree I may ever have. Not only are the clothes tailored for ME, I got to design half of them. Of course, not everything turned out exactly how I envisioned it, but the tailors did a pretty good job with what they had. In case you are wondering, I had to buy another suitcase before I left Hoi An. So much for my days as a simple backpacker... ;)

Other highlights of Hoi An included a cooking class, bicycle rides, and the beach. While Hoi An may be a small town, we still found it incredibly convenient to ride around on bicycles the whole time. It stopped motortaxi's from constantly hassling us, it helped big-time when we were running back and forth across town to different tailors (I barely caught my bus out of town in time after the tailors frantically hurried to finish the alterations on my cocktail dresses), and most of all, it was so much fun! One afternoon we rode the bikes out to the beach, just a few miles away from the town center, and explored one of the many fancy resorts. The beach on that part of the coast was very similar to those in the tourist areas of Mexico--long stretches of white sand and perfectly placed palm trees. Very picturesque.

For 8 USD, Faren and I partook in our own private Vietnamese cooking class. We were each allowed to choose three dishes. Our teachers made sure the class was very hands-on so it would turn into a cooking demonstration rather than a class. We were quite impressed with how complicated yet simple the dishes were. There were many different ingredients and steps, but it all went so fast and the same ingredients seemed to be repeated in many of the dishes. The food was incredibly delicious, and I can't wait to show off my new cooking skills for my friends and family when I return home.


From Hoi An, I had a 16 hour bus ride (!!!) up to Hanoi. I was prepared for the worst, so the ride was not as bad as I'd anticipated. I think it helps that after many overnight bus and train rides, I am becoming more accustomed to sleeping in odd places.

I've found that Hanoi is not quite as enjoyable as Saigon. The people are more likely to stare coldly at you in the North than give you a friendly wave and smile, like they did in the South. And to make matters worse, almost every person with whom we've had a "business" transaction has tried to rip us off or get more money out of us in some way. From our hotel to cyclo drivers to motortaxi drivers to fruit vendors. It was a pain when when the motortaxi driver demanded more money than the price we had agreed on, after he had driven us through the city, but it was a ROYAL pain in the butt when our hotel tried to charge us more money at check-out because we had failed to book any tours with them. Faren and I are more concerned with the principle of the matter, that they are dishonest and trying to cheat us, than with the actual loss of a few dollars. We always insist on sticking up for ourselves, instead of being dumb tourists whom everyone takes advantage of. In this case with our hotel, we had to put up a pretty big fight to get them back to the right price, especially because they had already taken my money and were refusing to give back change. We got the money back in the end, but it left a bad taste in our mouths.


We went on a 2 day trekking adventure up in the Northern hills of Vietnam. It was absolutely gorgeous, albeit overcast and rainy. The low clouds gave the mountains a mystical presence, and when the fog cleared up, the hills seemed to possess every shade of green. Rice paddies as far as the eye can see are accented by the occasional river, stream, or waterfall. Cows can be seen roaming about as frequently as the children. Men and women, adorned in the traditional conical bamboo hat, slowly move through the fields, which are built like ledges into the giant hills making for an interesting geometric pattern in the landscape. We were at a high altitude, so the temperature was cooler than we were used to. But all of the hiking kept us warm. One day, it was so muddy that our feet were literally heavy from the mud caked to our shoes. Every step I took left my entire foot submerged in the soft, red ground. The local people sold us bamboo sticks, which I stubbornly refused to purchase until I took one look at the steep, extremely muddy hill we were about to traverse. When we started out on the trek, we could not figure out why a whole band of local woman and children were tagging along, but after they literally held our hands to help us across rivers, down slick hills, and along treacherous ledges over steep cliffs, we quickly understood. And we understood even more when they offered their homemade goods--earrings, purses, clothing--for sale at the end of the day. How are you going to say no to a woman who has held your hand all day? I could have made it perfectly fine without the extra help, but I didn't really have a choice in the matter. The locals were dead-set on helping us, whether or not we truly wanted (or needed) the assistance. Would have been a sweet gesture if it was not actually a shrewed business tactic.

Halong Bay

Halong Bay, meaning "Bay of the Descending Dragon," is a UNESCO World Heritage site about 3 hours outside of Hanoi. The first tour we booked to this famous tourist attraction was a 2 day tour, but halfway there, our minibus turned around because a typhoon had hit the bay and it was no longer safe. Since a group of scuba divers were recently killed in Thailand after their boat capsized during a storm, we were grateful that the tour company decided to lose money rather than put our lives at risk. Needless to say, they had tried pretty hard to make it work in any event. Our van was the only one (out of many) that actually made the attempt, which was frusterating since it had resulted in a 4 hour car ride to nowhere. We elected to take the night train to Sapa that evening for trekking, with the hope that the weather would improve over the next few days, and in time for us to see Halong before our visas expired on Saturday. We arrived back from Sapa at 5 am on Friday morning, groggily found a hotel to take a quick nap and shower, and boarded another minibus to Halong Bay at 8 am for a one-day tour this time, since we had to be out of the country by the next day.

Luckily, the sun was shining and the bay was beautiful for our tour. In Halong Bay, thousands of massive steep, limestone structures rise spectacularly out of the ocean, like the top of a jagged mountain range. During the boat ride, we saw floating fishing villages where we could buy all sorts of shellfish and fish, with the option of having the boat crew cook it for us immediately. My favorite stop of the day was at one of the many hollow islands, where there were caves so incredible it was difficult to believe they were not man-made. In a corner of one of the massive grottos, two gaping holes in the "ceiling" allowed sharp rays of sunlight into the dark abyss, so it looked as though we were witnessing the grandest stairway to heaven. It was one of those phenomenons you thought only existed in the movies.

As I write this, it is Saturday, September 29th, the day that our Vietnamese visas expire. We leave on a 20 hour bus ride this evening to Laos, a country that has been widely recommended to me by every traveller whom has ever visited. According to Lonely Planet, Laos' isolation from foreign influence offers travellers an unparalleled glimpse of traditional Southeast Asian life. From the fertile lowlands of the Mekong River valley to the rugged Annamite highlands, Laos is the highlight of Southeast Asia. I can hardly wait!

Thursday, September 20, 2007

Vietnam (part I)

Saigon, Vietnam

Saigon, a.k.a. Ho Chih Minh city is a big city full of motorbikes and pho. In case you are unfamiliar with pho, it is a Vietnamese noodle soup (usually with some kind of meat) that is eaten at all times of day in this country. Since we were coming directly from spending almost a week in Phnom Penh, Saigon seemed pretty easy. The hassling by beggars and street vendors decreased by ten-fold and we felt a lot safer walking around in the evening. And when I say the city is full of motorbikes, I mean it is actually crowded with them. The motorbike is the dominant mode of transport in most Asian cities, but in Saigon you will regularly see crowds of motorbikes waiting at traffic lights and it looks like a crowd of people. Crossing the street with motorbikes everywhere is another experience, and it involves walking INTO moving traffic. Some intersections (more in Cambodia than in Vietnam) do not have any sort of traffic lights or stop signs, so it becomes a free-for-all. Whomever is most skilled at weaving through traffic will get through the intersection the fastest. Faren and I were so amazed by this that we had to take a video of the craziness, and for the first time, I actually felt grateful for the traffic cops and all of the traffic rules in the U.S.

Another thing to be noted about Saigon, and Vietnam in general, is how incredibly sweet the people are. Everywhere we go, we are greeted by a chorus of “hello’s!”. In Thailand and in Cambodia, most of these “hello’s” were from people who were trying to sell you something or give you a ride in their tuk-tuk. In Vietnam, the greetings are usually genuine, and smiles are almost always returned. I suppose that in Thailand, most of the Thai’s are fed up with tourists (can’t really blame them), so they are not as friendly. And in Cambodia, the people are so poor that everyone simply sees you as a walking wallet (not that this doesn’t happen all over S.E. Asia) rather than as another human being. But in Vietnam, we have been pleasantly surprised and impressed by the character of the people.

Similar to how I devoted time in Cambodia to learn about the Khmer Rouge, a significant amount of time in Vietnam has been spent learning about the Vietnam War, which has been heartbreaking. I visted the Cu Chi tunnels, a vast network of underground tunnels outside of Saigon, and an integral factor in the Viet Cong victory over America. They are more than 250 km long and three levels deep. A bit more history:

"The district of Cu Chi was the most bombed shelled, gassed, defoliated, and generally devastated area in the history of warfare. It was declared a "free fire zone" which meant that artillery fire fell on it at night, and that bomber pilots were encouraged to drop unused explosives and napalm on the area before returning to base. In essence, anything that moved was considered a target and blown away.

While U.S. forces relied on artillery support from fixed "Fire Bases," the Vietnamese used their tunnel system to move their artillery around, making it difficult for the U.S. troops to locate them. In one tunnel complex in Cu Chi the U.S. found two 105 field pieces in perfect working condition. They would be stripped down outside, taken into the tunnels and assembled during the day for maintenance, stripped again, and then taken back through the tunnels to be reassembled in a new location outside and used the next night.

These are only a few of the stories of the tunnels of Cu Chi. Today the tunnels still stand, proof that the determination of the people - and not technology - can determine who wins a war."

During the Cu Chi tour, I was able to climb on a destroyed American tank, see the most brutal boobie-traps ever, climb through the tiny tunnels, and...shoot an M16 machine gun! Although it was definitely counter to my peace-loving, anti-war mentality, curiousity got the best of me. When else in my life will I have the opportunity to shoot a real machine gun used in a war? I had to know what it felt like. Too bad I wasn't that impressed.

After the tunnels, my friend Zach and I were dropped off by our bus at the Vietnam War Remnants Museum. I quickly became very disturbed by all of the war history. For example, there was a large exhibit showing the effects of "Agent Orange," an herbicide that was sprayed over forested areas by the Americans to kill vegetation and expose enemy guerilla forces. This chemical has not only caused diseases and deaths in Vietnamese soldiers and civilians during war times, it has continued to effect the children of those who were exposed in the form of birth defects and illness. Entire families have had their lives severely debilitated or even lost because of Agent Orange, and the effects are still very visible in Vietnam today.

Also in the museum is an exhibit of paintings done by school children about life during and after the war, which was simply heart wrenching. And learning about all of the brutal murders and innocent lives lost--especially the children--was almost too much for me to handle. I suffered from a knot in my throat and worked hard to fight off tears the entire time I was in the museum, and I wasn't always successful. Eventually, I could not focus or stand up any longer, even though there was still a lot to see. Once I was back in the privacy of my hotel room, I cried my eyes out to Faren. There is so much sadness, hate, and cruelty in the world--from the Khmer Rouge to the Vietnam War--and it is very depressing. It's so easy in America to turn a blind eye because we are not forced to deal with war or genocide in our daily lives. It's not in our face, but it's happening all around us. When my grandparents were young men and women, it was World War II. When my parents were in their 20's, it was the Vietnam War and the Khmer Rouge in Cambodia. Now, there is the Darfur genocide and a war in Iraq. And there are so many day, my children will learn about how awful the war in Iraq was and all of the inhumane crimes the U.S. forces committed in the name of our country. What's more, it kills me that no one stopped the Khmer Rouge regime for 4 years, and it kills me even more to know that another genocide in Darfur is happening as I sit at this computer. I understand that warfare is part of human nature, it has been since the beginning of history as we know it, and it probably will be forever. Most agree that there is not very much we can do to change this fact of life. But it is difficult for me to understand and accept WHY it has to be this way. Man has such an innate will to survive and so much to live for. We love our friends and family so much, so why is it that we are able to kill other people's friends and families? Why do we take our most precious gift--life--away from one another? I am easily depressed by these thoughts, and the only way I can make myself feel better is to truly give thanks and praise for my own life. I was born in the land of opportunity and I can do anything I wish. I have so much gratitude for the charmed life that I lead. And since I am so incredibly blessed, there is nothing that I want more than to share my love and joy with others.

Mekong River Tour

While in Vietnam, you’ve got to see the Mekong! We took a boat tour all around the river, which is so big in some parts that it looks more like a lake. Some of the activities included a floating market, a visit with the river people to see how many of their local specialties are made (lots of free goodies and tea), a bicycle ride on an island, a canoe ride down a smaller stream, and a tour around another Vietnamese market—where I watched a woman slice the skin off of live snakes. It was surprisingly educational and very cool to see how the river people live with the water, which becomes so much a part of their livelihood. Their daily life is so different than that in the city. Experiences like this one often make me feel like I’ve stepped into some other universe or era. I suppose that in some ways, I have! Our tour guides made the day even more enjoyable as Faren and I really enjoyed their innocent jokes and goofy sense of humor. Although we did feel a little guilty since most of the time we were laughing AT them rather than WITH them AT their jokes…

Nha Trang

On the night of our third day in Saigon, we took a night bus to Nha Trang, a small city right on the Ocean—or the South China Sea, to be exact. The beaches in Vietnam look a lot different and perhaps less exotic than those in Thailand, but they do possess their own beauty. We rented bicycles and spent a day exploring the area, with its vibrant markets and sandy beaches. We signed up for a four island boat tour to see more of the surrounding nature. Although the snorkeling was good, it was still not as impressive as the crystal clear water and colorful corals that we have seen in Thailand. The most unique part of the boat cruise was the post-lunch “performance” in which the crew turned into a band by pulling out an electric guitar and a homemade drum set. After singing a few songs, they proceeded to pull members of the audience on stage, one by one, to sing a popular song from that particular person’s country. Of course I happened to be one of the lucky ones (or unlucky, depending on how you look at it) whom he pulled on to the stage. But instead of choosing an American song, he picked a Beatles song. And then later when he found someone on the boat who was British, he said “oh, same same as America!” and didn’t bother to bring her up for a song. I’m not sure how the British people felt about that… ;) The most entertaining part of the day (better than the “concert”) was the floating bar and free red wine! The main tour guide lept into the water, urging us to follow him. Everywhere you looked, bodies were throwing themselves overboard and crew members were tossing intertubes in after them. Our guide floated around with a crate full of wine, serving it in little plastic cups to the passengers, who were sitting with bums in the intertubes to keep afloat. And, to make it all a little more interesting, it was raining. Everyone was holding on to the bar, so to a by-stander, there was a huge clump of people in the ocean—mostly Japanese and Vietnamese—laughing, drinking, cheers-ing, and scrambling to be closest to the “bar.” Every time I turned around, another friendly face was holding their cup up to cheers me. Although we could not communicate in words, we understood each other perfectly. If I ever make a movie based on the travels of myself and others through South East Asia, this scene will be quite crucial in conveying the essence of how truly comical my adventures can be.

Tuesday, September 18, 2007


I was so sad to leave Thailand! It was like every departure I have had thus far was rolled into one and multiplied by 10. I was finally beginning to get my bearings in the country. I was learning to speak Thai a little better everyday and becoming more comfortable with the culture and the people every moment. I am confident that I will return one day...and am already looking forward to it!

The bus ride that we took from Bangkok, over the Thai-Cambodia border, and on to Siem Reap is notorious for its scams. They arrange your visas for you when you arrive at the border, overcharging you and taking a big chunk of money for themselves, and then they make sure you don't arrive in Siem Reap until about 10 pm (by taking extra long breaks and driving extra slow), at which point you are exhausted from 14 hours on the road, in a new city, in a new country, and aching to drop your bags at the first place you see. So they deposit the bus load of people on the doorstep of a waiting guesthouse that has already paid the commissions to have you there! Of course no one is going to physically force the foreigners to stay at the predetermined guesthouse, but the intimidation factor is strong and there is always a showdown and a lot of resistance if you decide to leave. The third scam that Faren and I were not prepared to deal with was getting completely tricked out of a lot of money at the border by a money exchange counter. I had asked our guide on the bus for the exchange rate between Thai Baht and Cambodian Riel. Since he was taking us across the border and we had been talking with him all day, we trusted him. This was our mistake. The rate that he quoted matched the rate we received at the border, without realizing that the guide and the money exchange counter were in cahorts to screw us over. So we both lost about a third of our cash, it took me only a few hours in Cambodia to put the puzzle together. Needless to say, Faren and I were pretty mad. Not only at the situation and the people who stole from us, but also at ourselves for not thoroughly researching the exchange rate. Frusterated with the situation and feeling very stubborn, we refused to stay at the guesthouse where the bus dropped us off, finding one closer to the center of the town instead.

The best part of the bus ride was when the driver pulled over in the middle of nowhere for a bathroom stop. We joked that this would happen after Faren asked the driver when the next stop would be and he said "5 minutes," meanwhile there was nothing in sight but fields and a dirt road. We did not actually think it would happen, but if it were to happen anywhere, Cambodia would be the least surprising. Faren and I were the only girls on the bus desperate enough (or maybe just shameless enough) to take advantage of the bushes. The second best part was a pickup truck packed to the brim with Cambodians. There had to be at least 30 people crammed in there. The truck and our bus passed by one another several times, and the faces in the truck were perfectly in align with the bus passengers. You could clearly see the fascination and delight with which each grouped viewed the other as we exchanged waves and smiles.

Once in Siem Reap, we bought a 3 day ticket to visit the world-famous Angkor temples, which are considered one of the wonders of the world. They were built during the height of the Khmer (Cambodian) empire over a period of 4 centuries. The temples at Angkor are spread out over about 40 miles, and range from single brick towers to giant stone structures, complete with a moat the size of a lake around Angkor Wat, making those around European castles seem like tiny streams. In fact, Angkor Wat, the "mother of all temples," is the largest religious monument in the world. Another temple, Ta Prohm, was the set for the "Lara Croft: Tomb Raider" movie. The first day we spent climbing through the ruins of the magnificent temples, riding around the sites on the back of a tuk-tuk. The second day we rented bicycles for $1.50/day and rode through the park, visiting ruins we had missed the previous day. The third day we woke up at 5 am in order to catch the sunrise at Angkor Wat. The temple faces west, so the sun rises up behind it, silhouetting the massive complex against the bright, beautiful morning sky. It was an unforgettable sight to see.

From Siem Reap we caught a bus to Phnom Penh, the capital of Cambodia, and the place where Faren and I both began a tumultuous emotional roller coaster. We started to learn--reading books, watching movies, and visiting museums--about the heart breaking Khmer Rouge regime (1975-79) in which about 2 million Cambodians were killed. I really knew nothing about it before I came here, which is pretty sad considering that this genocide was, in may ways, just as inhumane and cruel as the holocaust. We visted a museum that was once a high school and then converted into a prison and place of torture (for innocent victims) during the rule of the Khmer Rouge. It was really difficult to walk through the prison cells and torture chambers, seeing not only the torture instruments but also blood spatters everywhere. Can you imagine? It took a lot of courage for me to just be there and in the presence of so much suffering that still haunts the air.

At the same time, I was reading a book about one young Cambodian girl's personal experience during the Khmer Rouge. I recommend to any traveler, particularly those visiting recently war-torn nations, that they should supplement their trip with a biography like this. In my experience, it strengthens your understanding of the history and depth of human suffering that took place in the very city you are sleeping.

Shocked by the tragedies and disturbed by the desperation of the people still fighting to survive and recover from this dark period, Faren and I wanted to help in any way we could. After some research, we found an orphanage in great need of a little love. With no other options, we just showed up at the orphanage to volunteer.
The children are so sweet, a lot of them just want to hold your hand! We wanted to do something that would have a greater impact than only teaching a few songs and new English words, so we made flyers to promote the orphanage and posted them all over town. We've already brought other foreigners in, so it's been very rewarding to see instant results. Hopefully the sign will continue to attract people. We even made a friend out of one of the volunteers we recruited, Zach from California. Coincidentally, he happened to be leaving for Saigon, Vietnam on the same day as us, so we've all been traveling together. It's nice to have another face around.

One funny thing about Cambodia is that they use the U.S. dollar! The country has their own currency, the Riel, but they rarely use it. In most restaurants, grocery stores, clothing stores, etc. everything is quoted in USD. The only place where Riel dominated was in the outdoor markets, and even then the vendors would always accept dollars. It was a really weird concept to us that not only did the Cambodians prefer another currency over their own, but also that the U.S. government does not do anything about it. Interesting.

Tuesday, September 11, 2007

Bangkok and Chiang Mai

I left the Health Oasis on August 21st (I think) to travel up to Chiang Mai and Bangkok with Faren and Bryan. After a month and a half of living at the resort, it was another bittersweet goodbye. I already miss my newfound friends, but I was anxious to move on--and particularly anxious to be on the road and traveling again. I also miss living on a tropical island, morning yoga classes, and my daily walk on the perfect, paradisical beach.

The three of us took a night train up to Bangkok, spent the next day wandering around the city, and then caught another train that night to Chiang Mai. Two nights of sleep on a train was not the best idea, but it was the cheapest possible route to take. While in Chiang Mai we explored the miles of shopping at the Night Bazaar, weekend market, and various other markets. The shopping in Chiang Mai was unbelievable. Thousands of vendors are selling anything and everything you could ever possibly want to buy--as a souvenir, that is. A lot of arts and crafts are made in the North of Thailand, and this is the best place to buy these goods. Needless to say, I have greatly improved my haggling skills. In Thailand, you can bargain for pretty much everything--from vegetables at the market to jewelry sold by a street vendor to the prices for food at a restaurant to contact lenses at an eyeglass store. No joke.

Our other major activity in Chiang Mai was a trek through the jungle, complete with elephant riding and a float down the river on a homemade bamboo raft. I was not quite sure what to expect, but I quickly found that this trek was serious and not for the weak of mind or body! There was a lot of rain and a lot of steep hills to fall down during the hike (I managed to avoid leeches, thank god), some intense rapids while on a very rickety bamboo raft (I was left with some battle wounds after being thrown around a bit), and quite the roller-coaster of an elephant ride. We slept in a cabin, no electricty anywhere for miles, in a hilltribe village only accessible by foot. Our guides, three young Thai men, were very good-natured, trustworthy, and competent--although, innocently enough, quite flirty. Overall, despite the rain and having to wear wet clothes (that refused to dry) for a few days, the trek was amazing. I love being outdoors, active, and close to nature. I've noticed that although this desire is a basic human instinct, it is often suppressed and easy to forget when we spend so much of our lives in cities and indoors. A simple walk in the woods always reminds me how much I cherish the earth, so a few days of no contact with cities and modern conveniences really refreshed this appreciation in me.

After we were hiked-out and shopped-out in Chiang Mai, we hopped on a night train to Bangkok. Unfortunately, once we reached the train station at 8:45 (45 minutes early, or so we thought), we found that the last train to Bangkok was actually at 9 pm and had no sleeper cars, only chairs. Of course the schedule we looked at while at our guesthouse ( a.k.a. cheap hotel) did not coincide with the true schedule. Pretty typical for Thailand. So, after literally sprinting to a nearby eatery to grab a dinner-to-go (now that we had about 10 minutes before our train departed rather than the schedule 45) we boarded the 9 pm. None of us wanted to be stuck on a train for 14 hours with no food and empty stomachs that had not been fed since lunchtime. Ironically, a train attendant came through right after we "took off" and handed us free dinners. We were pretty shocked. Sure, it wasn't the best food I'd ever tasted, but it wasn't the worst. And I cannot begin to tell you what a rarity something like a free dinner is in Thailand. Nothing is free! Especially when tourists are involved. No other train or bus ride that any of us had been on in Thailand has ever handed out free food--it would not exactly match the poverty mentality that prevails in South East Asia. We were appreciative of the food, but it would have been nice if the ticket vendor had at least tried to tell us, thus saving us a few bucks and a lot of hassle. But this was definitely not the worst part of the train ride. The air-conditioned car was so air-conditioned that we were freezing. All night long. So cold that Faren and I had to layer on every semi-warm article of clothing in our backpacks. After living in a tropical climate for months and months, not only are you completely acclimated to the heat and very intolerant of the cold, you have ditched most clothing that traps any heat against your body. Luckily, Faren and I both still have fleeces (for such situations) and raincoats. I was wearing both. Plus socks and my only pair of paints and a long skirt over the pants. The skirt was supposed to work like another blanket. We wrapped ourselves in our sarongs and covered our bodies with the provided blanket, and we were still cold. It was a long night and an even longer train ride. When we finally deboarded in Bangkok, it took me a good 45 minutes of 95 degree weather and a hot cappucino to de-thaw enough to the point that I wanted to take off my thick fleece. I was that cold. (I wonder how long it is going to take me to acclimate to the Seattle weather.)

In Bangkok, the three of us thoroughly explored the classic sites: Khao San Road--the infamous backpacker street, MBK--the huge fancy mall filled with a whole lot of the same crap you can buy on the street, Patpong District--heady nightlife famous for girly bars and "ping-pong shows," the Grand Palace--a bit of Thai history and architecture, and lots of shopping (more browsing than buying) at several markets. Faren and Bryan spent a few nights alone in a 5 star hotel since he would be leaving in just a few days, on August 31st. And when I visited them at the hotel, I experienced a strange culture shock from the decadent luxury. I've been roughing it for over 5 months. I lived in a classroom for a month while in Surat Thani--sleeping on the ground, no bed and definitely no conveniences like mirrors or screens on the windows. I shared a small hotel room with Faren for 2 months in Phuket, this has been our nicest long-term home. We shared an even smaller room at the Health Oasis for a month, and I lived in the room by myself for another 3 weeks after she left. This room did not have a flushing toilet OR a sink in the bathroom. We have stayed in bungalows that are little more than a shack made of sticks, complete with many huge spiders and other creepy-crawly critters. We've been roughing it and living very cheaply for months, and to suddenly step into a world class hotel in a big city was overwhelming. And fun. I had a lot of fun at this hotel, and I wasn't even staying there! Poor Bryan came down with a bad case of the flu the first night in the hotel and was out of commission. So I took over his spot at the beautiful al-fresco hotel restaurant, located 65 stories in the air. They had a dinner reservation and someone had to keep Faren company! The food was delicious, but the atmosphere was what we were really paying for. It is indescribable in words. After stepping off the elevator, we were ushered across a long, beautifully-lit glass runway that ended in a kaleidoscope glass window framing the city below. From the runway, a grand staircase led us into the main dining area where we spent our entire dinner gazing at the breathtaking view. It was the most enchanting, unique restaurant I have ever been to in my life.

After Bryan left, Faren joined me at my backpacker guesthouse on Khao San Road. Cheap but clean, with a fun atmosphere to seal the deal. I was ready to move on pretty quickly, having spent more than enough time in the big and polluted, albeit entertaining and exciting, city of Bangkok. Almost immediately, before we had the chance to even book our tickets out, I came down with the flu. It was bad, complete with a 103 degree fever and the worst headache I've experienced. Thank God we had not bought our tickets. I spent way more time in that hotel than any person ever should. After a few days I was still a bit under the weather, but now I was also suffering from cabin fever and anxious to get out of the city, so I decided that I was well enough to tough it out and board a bus for the all-day trip to Siem Reap, Cambodia where we were to visit the revered temples of Angkor Wat...

Thursday, August 9, 2007

Exploring New Opportunities on Koh Samui

My last day of teaching at Chalermprakiat School was June 29th. I repeatedly declined offers from the school to sign a one-year contract, stay for just a little bit longer, or both. While I did have a positive experience, a long-term teaching gig in one location was not my goal in coming to Thailand. Rather, I would prefer to secure very short-term positions (such as 2-4 weeks) in different cities in various countries. The aim is to travel and have the time to really get to know an area, rather than completely make my home in one place. Accordingly, I was beginning to become a bit restless after nearly 2 months in Phuket. Saying good-bye to my students was bittersweet. Although I was ready to move on and start my next adventure, the kids were upset and could not seem to understand why in the world I would want to leave, what in the world I could possibly do besides teaching, and where in the world I was going. I was touched by their interest in my life. Each one of my students wrote my email address in their notebooks with more care than I'd ever seen them take with their penmanship, and acted like snap-happy parents on prom night, taking countless photos of me and with me. To my surprise, a few even started crying when I said my final good-byes!

For Faren and I, the next segment of our journey was to more deeply explore our new-found interest in achieving good health through the means of holistic healing and alternative medicine/therapies. I’ve always had an interest in health, but it was nothing I had previously taken the time to delve into. This curiosity was sparked with Faren’s plethora of health problems that were misdiagnosed or not diagnosed as anything at all, were declared as incurable or “curable” with antibiotics, and really never quite treated correctly. I joined Faren in her research of alternative methods, from special diets to homeopathic treatments to emotional healing. We began to read books about fasting and detoxification, quickly learning that cleansing the body is a tried and true method of relieving illness and preventing disease.

We decided that we wanted to spend more time exploring this idea of holistic healing, a philosophy that views our mental, physical, and spiritual sides as being closely interconnected and all integral for complete healing of the body. There happen to be a lot of health centers in Thailand that combine fasting and detox programs with alternative therapies, and operate under the values of holistic healthcare. After e-mailing and corresponding with several health resorts, we decided to pick up all of our belongings and try our luck on Koh Samui, where the manager at one particular resort, the Health Oasis, had been particularly receptive to our idea of an “energy exchange,” in which we could complete a detox program at a discounted rate (in fact, my fasting experience requires a blog-post of its own) and stay at the resort (free of charge) while we interned. Coincidentally, the Health Oasis Resort is a very laid-back, loosely organized, and slightly under-staffed place—meaning the manager (also the resident naturopath), Graham, could use the help of two intelligent and university-educated interns. We've completed several projects, the latest one being the most interesting. Faren and I actually wrote, scripted, directed, filmed, and starred in a video that will be used to supplement the introduction to the fasting programs. We got a kick out of the filming and acting, so if nothing else, we will be left with a very entertaining video that, in its own way, documents our experience at the Health Oasis. Some of the biggest challenges: avoiding excessive cheesiness (a lot easier said than done), shooting scenes outdoors using an amateur hand-held video camera and trying (in vain) to find satisfactory lighting not too bright and not too dark, shooting outdoors in the blistering mid-day heat, memorizing lines and monologues, writing a script about something we were clueless about…the list goes on. I am currently in the process of editing it, on my own, as Faren left about a week and a half ago to spend the month of August traveling around Thailand with her boyfriend, Bryan, who has come to visit. In the past few months he has graduated from law school and taken the bar exam, so he’s in need of some serious rest and relaxation. You really can’t get much better than Thailand! Anyways, the whole process of making the video (especially editing) has been quite the learning experience, considering Faren and I have no experience in making a movie. I can confidently agree with the mantra that the best way of learning is by doing.

One thing I have forgotten to mention so far is the beauty of the Health Oasis Resort. It is located right on a gorgeous stretch of white sand beach, lined with picture-perfect palm trees, on Koh Samui island in the Gulf of Thailand. I practice yoga every morning on the beach and I swim in the waterfall pool at the edge of the ocean every afternoon. I do my work in a breezy open air room, just a few steps from the sand. So, although I may be looking at a computer screen, all I have to do is shift my eyes to catch the sparkling blue-green of the water. It is truly paradisical.

I have made some great friendships with the other people who work here and I'm learning a lot from them as they are all from different parts of the world, different ages, and at different walks of life. We do all sorts of things together, whether it be making dinner and staying in, playing music and singing along, going out to dinner on the beach, laying by the pool and chilling out, partying and dancing the night away with the tourists. The Health Oasis is located in a rather remote and quiet area of the island, which can be peaceful and relaxing, but sometimes leaves something to be desired. So when we feel hungry for some action, we venture into the beach town of Chaweng, which has something for everyone: swanky bars, cheap hole-in-the-wall bars, “girly shows” and girly bars, lady-boy shows and lady-boys dressed in elaborate costumes, a huge dance club called The Green Mango (my favorite hang-out spot), and many holiday-makers looking for a good time.

I plan on staying at the Health Oasis until about the 4th week of August, when I will join Faren and Bryan in touring Chiang Mai and Bangkok until Bryan leaves at the end of the month. Subsequent to his departure, our plans are indefinite, but it looks like we may finally be making our way out of Thailand come mid-September. We’ve both stayed here longer than expected, yet would not have it any other way.

Wednesday, June 20, 2007

Life on Phuket

Life on Phuket is a combination of teaching, learning, and playing. Monday through Friday, I teach. On the weekends, I play on one of the many beautiful beaches of Phuket. And every day of the week, I am learning. According to an old adage, “you learn something new every day.” But for this particular episode of my life, I find this adage to be a gross understatement. In truth, every day seems to bring a brand new book of knowledge.

Faren and I have absolutely been noticing the benefits of living and working in a foreign country rather than being another tourist or backpacker. First of all, we have a lot more interactions with a broad range of Thai people in their normal routine of work and play. I am in constant interaction with Thai teachers and Thai students. We have ventured into popular Thai hang-out spots, surrendering to conspicuous stares and a night reduced to socializing in (very) broken English. We have discovered the cheapest places to buy produce, and by now, the vendors know to give us the Thai price as opposed to the inflated farrang price. I’ve noticed that the more I frequent a certain fruit or vegetable stand, the more likely the vendor is to throw in basil or another mango at no extra charge.

When we first arrived in Phuket Town, we could barely walk one block without Thai men shouting at us “where you from?” “hello!” “where do you go?” “tuk-tuk?” or “taxi?” After a few weeks, they began to realize we were not the average farrang tourist, we were here to stay. So, most of the “where you from?” and “where do you go?” slowly subsided. We have become just another facet in our neighborhood—like the old women wrapped in sarongs who people-watch all day long, the overheated dogs and cats sprawled out on the sidewalk, the group of old men playing cards, the children on their bicycles—and the stares have lessened. In the more touristy areas of town, we are always offered a tuk-tuk or taxi, but not at the same frequency as just a few weeks ago.

One reason why our neighbors have become accustomed to me and Faren is because we insist on walking just about everywhere in town. I walk to and from my school, which takes me about 45 minutes. One day, during a particularly long walk home (my “shortcuts” led me into winding back roads), I came upon a realization. Since I walk, I see at least a hundred times more of the town and its culture. You miss so much when you are speeding by on a motorbike. Thai towns are not like neat, organized Western cities that are perfectly mapped-out and separated into commercialized areas and residential neighborhoods. Not at all. Everything is squished together as much as is humanly possible. No map is comprehensive, which does not matter as Thai people never use maps. Sidewalks are a luxury. Giant holes in the ground are the norm. People serve food from their living rooms. Shop-owners eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner behind the counter, in between transactions. The kids watch TV while the parents cut hair. And as a pedestrian, you get to see all of this. Now, on my walk to school, I recognize the man reading the newspaper in his tiny restaurant and the police officer who helps the school children cross the street. Street vendors greet me with a smile. Motortaxi drivers shout hello as I walk past—most of the regulars have learned that I don’t want a ride. I even witness the morning prayers of Thais who have fallen to their knees on the pavement as they are blessed by Buddhist Monks dressed in deep orange robes. It’s always the same faces, the same dogs, the same crooked sidewalks that become an obstacle course for me. Everyday. A lot of people—both farrang and Thai—think I am slightly crazy, weird, or both because I walk such a long distance to and from school. They must not know what I am seeing and what they are missing.
Lucy Meets the Governor

I arrived at school one Monday morning to be informed that I, along with four other teachers from the Multi-Language Program, was scheduled to meet the Governor of the Phuket province. It is not unusual for the school to interrupt classes with something or another—whether it is by taking the teacher away to meet an important official or pulling students out for sports day practice, “soldier” (boys only, and I really know no details), boy scouts, girl scouts, English-speaking competitions, or to fulfill some other special duty. So, I was not surprised by this sudden change in my day. However, I WAS surprised that they were taking us to meet the Governor of the province, and not an official from the Department of Education, or something like this.

At 9 am, the director of the school, the teachers, and several school administrators (or maybe they were just Thai teachers, I’m not really sure) loaded into a giant van that took us to the Governor’s office. The five teachers included an Australian, a Phillipine, two Chinese, and myself. They filed all of us, including the administrators, into the Governor’s office. There was the usual wai’s (the Thai greeting, you put your palms together in a praying position in front of your face and bow your head) and sa wa dee’s (hello! in Thai). We were all herded into the office and seated on pale yellow couches and chairs in the large, fancy room. The Director of the school and the Governor proceeded to converse about the program, the teachers, the students, and who knows what else. She showed him some photographs and introduced every foreign teacher. Needless to say, these activities all took place in Thai. It was easy to discern when the Director was talking about me or one of the other teachers, and sometimes the Governor would pause and ask us questions in English. As we were leaving, we took a big group picture with the Governor—I really need to find the Thai person who took that photo so I can get a copy! Simeon (the Phillipino), Peta (the Australian), and I couldn’t resist but run back into the Governor’s office after the group had exited, and ask him for his signature. Surprisingly, this was Simeon’s idea, but Peta and I were equally enthusiastic. I’m not sure if an autograph is something on which the Thai’s place any value, but we are “farrang,” which automatically gives us an excuse for our strange requests. In any event, the Governor was happy to oblige us and seemed pretty flattered, and even the Director gave us a big smile and a thumbs up.

Teacher Day

One of the neatest cultural experiences I have had at my school was Teacher Day, which took place on June 14th. I was unsure of what to expect, except for that I would receive a lot of flowers. All of the students and teachers gathered in the assembly hall. The assembly hall is light, open, and airy, with incredibly high ceilings. The stage at the front of the great room more or less resembles an alter. The largest object is a giant statue of the ‘Princess mother,’ since Chalermprakiat School was funded and donated to Phuket by the Princess’s mother. (I am not really sure what this means, or why she is called the Princess’s mother rather than the King’s mother. The Thai’s do not know either.) A mass of flowers sits before the statue, and to the left is a smaller statue of Buddha, with additional offerings of flowers sitting at his feet. The stage is also adorned with the Thai national flag, other flags whose significance remains a mystery to me, and of course, a picture of the His Majesty, the King.

For the Teacher Day ceremony, a small band of students in the back of the hall played music on various nontraditional instruments that appeared to be made of bamboo. Whatever they were, the music sounded beautiful. Two rows of chairs for the teachers were arranged in front of the stage, facing the students who were seated on the ground. A black leather couch was situated in the middle of the front row of chairs, where the Director of the school sat, along with three other individuals. Every child grasped a small bouquet of flowers and various objects—roses and carnations, along with incense and candles. Some held larger and carefully crafted arrangements. The ceremony began with talking, praying, and a lot of singing. An older female student led the entire student body in a few pretty tunes. I only wish I could have understood the meaning behind these songs. For all I know, they could be about Buddha, the school, the King, or the country.

The first students who lined up for the flower procession were those with the more elaborate flower arrangements. Two by two (one boy, one girl), they approached the Director and the other adults on the black leather couch. When they were about 10 feet in front of the couch, they dropped to their knees and walked on their knees the remaining distance to the couch. First, they put their flower arrangements aside and wai’d until their heads were nearly touching the ground. The people on the couch wai’d in return. Then, they handed one bouquet to the Director and one to the woman on her right, and wai’d again. Their wai was returned once again. The flower arrangement was passed to the left and placed upon a table. The next two students stepped forward and repeated the process. This continued for at least a half hour.

Next, the students with the smaller bouquets approached the two rows of teachers (where I was seated) and repeated a similar procedure, walking on their knees, wai-ing to the teachers in unison, and presenting flowers. The ritual concluded with a speech by the Director and special presents awarded to a few students who had won an essay contest on the subject of teachers. I was quite curious about what the Director was saying, as she was talking for quite a while. But my questions were dismissed by my Thai counterparts with a few words of broken English. All I could glean is that she was reiterating a speech the King had recently made regarding education.

And if you are wondering about what happened to all of the flowers—as much as I wanted to beautify my desk with an obscene amount of flowers—most of them were offered to Buddha.

New Passions and Discoveries

Alternative (particularly naturopathic) medicine is one of those things in which I have been very interested for a while, without knowing much about the subject. While in Thailand, I have devoured any book or booklet that I can get my hands on regarding alternative, naturopathic, and homeopathic medicines and holistic healing. As I acquire more knowledge on these subjects, the hungrier I am to learn more and more. All of the ideas and theories make so much sense, and continue to increasingly add up as I persist in my studies.

In a nutshell, naturopathic medicine offers solutions to the root of health problems, rather than simply treating the symptoms. The cause must be eradicated in order for the body to be truly healed. The origin of illness can be mental, emotional, physical, or spiritual. Of course, naturopathy is also heavily invested in the conviction that nature holds powerful healing powers and that our bodies have the capacity to be self-healing. It operates using the holistic method, which exists under the belief that treatment for health problems must reach beyond immediate symptoms and treat the entire body, spirit, and mind. The naturopathic physician is expected to educate their patients how to take responsibility for their own health, and encourage them to do so. The fundamental purpose of naturopathic medicine is prevention. Accordingly, “the emphasis is on building health, not fighting illness,” which can be accomplished by developing healthy lifestyles, relationships, and beliefs.

Faren, in her quest to recover better health, has recently visited a holistic healing center focused on detoxification and cleansing by the name of Atsumi Healing Center. She stayed for about 5 days, but found that she was not quite ready for the intensity of that program. After I have finished teaching on Phuket, we plan to visit a center on either the island of Koh Phangan or Koh Samui where there are a few reputable programs, aptly given names such as The Health Oasis and The Sanctuary. Our hope is that we will complete a program, and possibly stay on at the resort for longer in order to learn as much as we can about holistic healing and alternative medicine. Ideally, we could become “interns” and contribute to the center in some way, whether it be through teaching Salsa lessons, French lessons, English lessons, gardening, or even doing dishes.

Meanwhile, we are focused on cleansing our bodies as much as possible so we have begun to prepare all of our own food, we have stopped eating meat, we have abstained from alcohol, sugars, coffee, and all processed foods—and additionally, we are practicing a lot of positive thinking. Some of these changes are likely not intended to be permanent (except for positive thinking!), but since I have learned the detrimental effects these substances have on your health, I find them less desirable and more difficult to ingest.

Increasingly, I have been contemplating the idea of studying naturopathic medicine at a University. I do enjoy self-study immensely, but I also understand the limitations—one can only gain so much from reading a book, and there is so much to learn. Perhaps I may even find my calling and become a naturopathic doctor. So, this is yet another dream of mine and another idea in my arsenal of future plans. Maybe it will remain only a thought in my consciousness. Or maybe not…

Monday, June 11, 2007

Long Overdue Update

I've been away for only about two and a half months and already I have seen more beauty than I knew existed and I have met people that are weirder than I could have ever imagined. In fact, I hope to write a book and/or screenplay one day loosely based on my travels and adventures, even if it is just for me to read :) With each day that passes, my next blog entry becomes more and more difficult to write. Yet I have been so busy and preoccupied that I have not been able to force myself into sitting down and writing down my thoughts. Sure, I have spent many minutes THINKING about what I would like to write about, but this accomplishes very little. So here I am, finally ready to take a stab at briefly summarizing the last several weeks.

Faren and I moved on from Surat Thani and out of the classroom in which we were living around the beginning of May. I found a temporary (this is rare, coveted, and just what I wanted) teaching position in Phuket, filling in for a women on maternity leave. Faren wanted to take some time off to focus on her health, which has not been optimum since before she left for Thailand at the end of January. So, I am now teaching at a public secondary school by the name of Chalermprakiat Somdet Prasrinakarin Phuket School. This is the official name. We call it simply Chalermprakiat School. Although the school is funded by the government, I teach in a special department known as the Multi Language Program, MLP for short. MLP costs a lot of money, 30 thousand baht per term, versus 500 baht per term (basically free) for normal school. It is for this reason that MLP can even afford to hire foreign teachers. I teach 18 hours a week, although I am required to be here Monday through Friday from 7:45 am to 4:30 pm, which is not ideal. About half of the English teaching jobs, and almost all of the jobs at real schools (as opposed to tutor schools) have this requirement for their teachers. I would much rather be able to walk away after my lessons are over and have the rest of my day for myself. On the other hand, I do use a lot of the time for lesson prep, grading homework, and of course, email!

I teach several different levels and subjects—General English, English Reading and Writing, English Listening and Speaking, Health, and (supposedly) eventually an English Drama club that has yet to begin. Basically I am a high school teacher and I have no idea how I managed to pull that one off! The pay is, of course, pretty bad. Faren and I were joking about how we both graduated from university to get paid less than U.S. minimum wage--I make 28,000 thai baht a month which is about $875/month, and that is "working" 40 hours a week! With the housing allowance of 3,000 baht a month provided by the parents’ association, I should get a total of almost $970 per month (I have yet to see one baht of this alleged housing allowance). But the cost of living is low, so it makes sense. One definitely does not come to Thailand to make and save money, but it is a great experience! And more importantly, I feel like I am actually making a difference and touching my students' lives. All I hope is that I can leave them with more knowledge, a better understanding of English, and an overall higher level of comfort with the language. As cliché as it may sound, it is an exceptionally powerful feeling to realize that you have the opportunity to enrich so many young lives.

To give you more insight into my life as a teacher, I found this little snippet on the internet about teaching in Asia, specifically China, but it applies to Thailand and likely other countries. It really hit home for me.

“With a flexible approach to life and work and understanding that all plans are potentially tentative, I was able to fully enjoy my time teaching in China.

Foreigners often go to China and expect it to be like the West. It isn’t. Teachers (and workers in general) often do not have the same working hours we have here and there is lots of bureaucratic red tape. But despite the difficulties, it is an unforgettable experience, exposing you to a completely different life and giving you the chance to make lifelong friends and to challenge yourself.”

All things considered, I do like the school, the job, and especially the students. Yes, they can misbehave, be too excitable and rowdy, talk while I am talking, and be nonresponsive. But they can also be very sweet, very quiet, very respectful, and they can even act like perfect angels. When I introduce a game or activity that works well, almost every one comes alive and actively participates. And since I have been here almost a month, the students have adjusted to my expectations. I am quite proud of the fact that I have managed to gain a lot of classroom control and respect, while still earning the fondness of the students. Every time I walk down the hall, I have to constantly be “on” because they always want to say hi and talk to me (well, as much as they can). They call me “Teacher,” sometimes “Teacher Lucy.” It is very endearing.

Aside from my escapades as a junior high/high school teacher, I have had countless moments, both alone and with Faren, when I think to myself, “wow, this experience would make quite an entertaining blog entry.” The cultural experiences and the crazy adventures that I have gotten myself into and out of are enough to write a book, which like I mentioned, I just might do someday. One night during a particularly memorable experience with some particularly memorable people, I could not help but turn to Faren and say, “these people are just like…characters in my book!” This was the only way that I could describe the quirks and eccentric nuances that I saw in our new friends. Their personalities were so distinct and entertaining that it seemed like they had stepped right out of a movie and into my reality. Ever since, we are continually discussing the new characters we have met to add to the list.


Since my last blog entry, Faren and have continued to spend our (often extended) weekends traveling around Thailand. In Krabi, we saw the most gorgeous, untouched islands and turquoise water during an unforgettable 4 island boat tour. We swam through caves, snorkeled with tropical fish, and stood amongst wild monkeys on the beach. Mesmerized by the beauty at the first stop on the tour, we missed the departure of our boat and had to hitch a ride (from another tour boat) to the next island. Needless to say, we were a lot more careful throughout the rest of the tour. Also that weekend, we indulged in Thai oil massages on the beach (this would not be the last time), we explored a new town from one end to the other, and we befriended people from Germany, Costa Rica, Italy, Singapore, Australia, and of course, Thailand.

Koh Tao

I found my favorite Thai island, the neighbor of Koh Phangan (my second favorite), Koh Tao. I could write pages about Koh Tao, and I surely will for my book! At the time I went to Koh Tao, I had just quit my first temporary job in Surat Thani. I ventured out to the island on the night boat on the night of Wednesday, May 2nd (Faren had to teach on Thursday so she followed the next day), and did not leave until the following Monday night. Needless to say, I could have stayed for weeks. I met my first and favorite friends of the long weekend, a young French man, Flavien, and his father, Claude, on the night ferry. Believe it or not, we also shared the night ferry with about 30 caged pigs. Each pig had its own separate cage, with no room to move. Although I was annoyed by the smell, I still had to feel sorry for these poor pigs in captivity. Anyways. Flavien had just spent over a year working in Australia, so his English was great. Claude did not speak a word of English. I was very happy to be forced into practicing my French! Flav and Claude took me under their wing and I spent the next few days snorkeling, swimming, dining, and playing with my new French friends. We were staying at Freedom Beach by the recommendation of someone Flav had met on a bus. I love Freedom Beach. It consists of the bungalows, restaurant, bar, and of course, a very private beach. The restaurant, the bar, and every bungalow are all just feet from the water, and all have a magnificent view. I could not pinpoint exactly what I did to fill up those three days, but I do know that I was always happy, always having fun, always living in the moment yet also looking forward to what was next. It all came down to the people and the scene. Each person I met at Freedom Beach was interesting, worldly, kind, open-minded, intelligent, and so much fun to hang out with. From randomly organized card games on the beach to sunsets at the bar to “Connect-Four” in the restaurant to “Jenga” in the bar to deep conversations to pee-your-pants funny moments to dog-watching on the beach to snorkeling to dancing at dusk with a beer in hand, it could not have been more perfect.
view from my bungalow at Freedom Beach --->

Our other nights on Koh Tao were spent in the little party-village of Sairee, and at its polar opposite, Nang Yuan Island—a popular family destination where everything shut down at 9:30 pm. Our experience at Sairee included a crazy rainstorm, dancing on the beach, and a long night post-bar and post-dancing of laughs, guitar music, and a digireedoo. In Sairee, there is a string of bar/dance clubs built right on the beach. The high tide threatens their very existence. If the ocean level were to be raised by just a few feet, these bars would be in deep water. Literally and figuratively. This also makes for a very fun beach dance party that apparently happens every night. On the particular night we visited, there was a huge rainstorm that we watched coming for miles. It was the craziest thing, we could not only hear, but we could SEE the storm coming towards us. Obviously, to hear rolling thunder and see bolts of lightning is not unusual. However, instead of lightning bolts, we could see entire clouds lit up from miles away. It looked like a special effect out of a movie. When the rain set in, the dance party on the beach did not stop, it only got wilder. And there are few things I love more on a hot night in Thailand than dancing in the rain on the beach with the waves rushing up around my ankles.

Koh Nang Yuan, where we spent our last night, is not actually a part of Koh Tao, but is an island of its own. Nang Yuan is gorgeous and uniquely formed by three separate rocky islands that are connected by a double-sided white sand beach, most of which is submerged at high tide. We went there for the beauty, not realizing that it was not exactly our scene. There is one resort that has monopolized the tiny islands, but we decided to splurge and book a room, mostly swayed by the free boat ride to the island that would only be free if we booked (and paid) in advance. In retrospect, this was not the best decision as there was not a whole lot to do and there was not a whole lot of (ok, any) people for us to talk to. The other guests included older European couples and many Asian families. I would have been satisfied with a day trip to enjoy the breathtaking beauty, the astonishing double-sided beaches, the hike with a spectacular viewpoint, and the dazzling clear water for snorkeling. Nevertheless, I did not regret visiting this island and we left with a lot of great photographs and an even greater picture imprinted in our memories.


Another extended trip for Faren and I was to Penang, Malaysia to obtain our Thai visas. You have to be out of the country in order to do this. I got a Non-Immigrant B visa, valid for 90 days, so that I would be legal to work and get a work permit. We had to stay in Malaysia for a few days while our visas were being processed. I knew little about Penang and was pleasantly surprised. Faren and I befriended some very interesting characters to add to our book, including a young Swedish man living on Koh Tao, a nomadic Australian couple, another nomadic couple from Ireland, a professional Malay singer, a few teachers from Krabi, and some very unique Malay people, among others. Faren and I made the most out of just a few days in a brand new country. We went out and enjoyed big city nightlife with the Swedish guy, drank for free at ladies night (who knew “ladies night” means ladies drink for free??), danced (attracting a lot of attention as we were the only white girls in a packed club), won a dance contest (the prize was money!), sang in public for the first time together with the professional singer (after much coaxing, it was very scary for both of us), sang karaoke (once we were broken in by the singer, we couldn’t get enough of the stage), explored Chinatown and Little India (I felt like I was in India. It was a very confusing experience with three foreign countries—Thailand, Malaysia, India—crowding my brain, Faren and I both went into a bit of culture shock), visited Starbucks many times (we miss having one on every corner—very, very, VERY much), found great scenes for some artistic photography (such as the waterfront at sunset, the inside of a fancy hotel we snuck into, and a random beautiful old city wall), and basically got beat up by massage people who were supposedly "helping" us.

Life and Culture

The Thai culture is incredibly different, which I believe is hugely due to the fact that Thailand is the only Southeast Asian country never to be colonized by a Western power. After visiting Malaysia, a former colony of Great Britain, I could immediately see the difference that a Western influence brings. In Thailand, some of the weird cultural things they do seem to make sense, while other things are just so backwards that it can be frustrating. To sum it up, I would say that I am just learning A LOT. About everything. I am learning about myself--about who I am and who I want to be--I am learning about what it is like to feel like an outsider. I am learning about other people. On a daily basis, at my school I interact with people from Thailand, England, the Phillipines, China, America, South Africa, Australia, etc etc. On weekends we travel around and meet more nomads from all around the world. There are still very few Americans who will venture to South East Asia, which of course we love, since it means that we can meet more travelers different from ourselves. I did not exactly come to Thailand to meet Americans, otherwise I would have stayed home! However, when I do find the rare American, it is nice. I feel a strong kinship with them. I can see all the ways that we are completely different people, but at the same time, we are also very alike—simply because we were raised in the same culture. It is very cool.

I find it challenging and peculiar to be in a country so unbelievably diverse from your own for extended periods of time. Once in a while, I feel like I am so far out of my element and comfort zone. Most of the time I love having that challenge, but sometimes it can be simply exhausting. Thailand may be known for being a tourist destination, but there are definitely parts where you will find little to no tourists, such as in the town of Surat Thani, where I was a minority in a big way. I had to quickly learn to deal with the constant attention that goes along with being an extreme minority. If I ever did see another white person, chances were good that they were another teacher, and this was usually an arranged social visit. In fact, there is a little makeshift bar next to the river, set up by a young Thai man, Dear, who speaks English well and is a good friend to all of the foreign teachers. He is there almost every night with his shed (literally) of beers and alcohols. A few feet away, the bar patrons sit in a public area of chairs and tables. In Surat, every night that Faren and I were aching for some social interactions, yet had nothing planned, we knew we could go to Dear’s bar to hang out with other English speakers and just…talk. It is a place where everybody knows your name.

Life in Phuket Town is a little different. The island of Phuket is a huge tourist destination, although most tourists stay away from the actual beach-less city of Phuket—where we live. There are, however, many, many beaches and even a few Starbucks just a short bus ride away (ok, short distance-wise, but somehow it takes forever to get there). The biggest downfall is that the bus services stop in the late afternoon, sometimes earlier if you are somewhere more remote, and you have to hire a tuk-tuk or a taxi to get back into Phuket Town. The prices of tuk-tuks and taxis are made for white tourists with their Western money, not for Westerners earning a teacher’s salary in Thai baht. No matter how much Faren and I insist that we are teachers, the only thing the drivers can see is our white skin. When most Thai people (particularly those working in the tourist industry) on Phuket see white skin, you can almost see the dollar signs in their eyes. This is probably one of the biggest cons for teachers in Thailand, and it can almost be disheartening. I think that it does get better with time though. When you first arrive, there are so many daily situations in which you just have no idea what to do. With time and experience, you get used to establishing the price for just about EVERYTHING before you agree to buy it, you get used to riding the bus, ordering food at restaurants, shopping for clothes...just about every normal activity (that you feel like you know so well) has to be tweaked a little bit to adjust for the cultural differences. Very interesting.

22nd Birthday

I was quite nervous that I would become completely and utterly homesick, depressed, and sad on my birthday. Every birthday of my life I have made sure to surround myself with my family and friends. May 28th is a very important day to me (yes, I can admit it). This would be the first birthday without my family and my first birthday away from home. Thanks to Faren, with the help of our new teacher friends, Ed and Michelle, it was not only a fabulous day, but quite a memorable weekend. We met Ed and Michelle the previous week at trivia night at our local Irish pub, O’Malley’s. O’Malley’s is like the Phuket version of Deer’s bar in Surat Thani. Everyone there is English-speaking. It is the only ferrang hangout that I know of in Phuket town. Ed and Michelle are practically strangers themselves. They were both enrolled in a month-long TEFL course (Teaching English as a Foreign Language) and have since been placed at the same school in Phuket.

On the Saturday morning of my birthday weekend, the four of us ventured over on the bus to Patong Beach with the intention of staying in a cheap guesthouse rather than paying a fortune for a taxi driver to take us home at some wee hour in the morning. Patong is the main tourist destination on Phuket and THE place for nightlife on the island. It has a reputation for being seedy and overcrowded. Thai prostitutes and lady-boys are rampant and foreign men often buy their Thai girlfriend-for-a-night in Patong. At the same time, a lot of harmless tourists and families come to Patong for the exciting nightlife, extensive shopping, loads of entertainment, gourmet restaurants, luxurious hotels, and beautiful sunsets. I would probably hate the place during high-season, but the Thai tourist industry has moved into low-season during the last month. Consequently, the whole Patong scene is a lot more laidback, a lot less pricey, and in my opinion, a lot more fun.

On Saturday evening we sat on the beach and witnessed a breathtaking, unbelievably gorgeous sunset while we mixed drinks in bowls (somehow Ed could not find cups), laughed, took photos, and enjoyed each other’s company and conversation. It was perfect. We went out in Patong Beach that night. We danced, gawked at the lady-boys, watched a lady-boy “cabaret” show, laughed at the really drunk Australian men (well, not Ed), tolerated the half-drunk Australian men, and hung out with the cool Australian men. There was a rugby tournament on Phuket, so Patong Beach was crawling with Australian men. Not that I am complaining.

The next day was Sunday and the next day was my birthday. I had already decided to take the day off so I could have a three-day weekend and enjoy my birthday to its fullest. The whole weekend was spent celebrating—there was a lot of dancing. Faren and I bargained at a massage place and got a great deal for a one hour "facial mask massage," a half hour foot massage, and a half hour head massage. After nearly missing the last cheap bus back to Phuket town and being forced to run through the town with our bags, we made it safely back to our little apartment. Faren surprised me with good Chilean wine and good chocolate, both of which are not easy to find in Thailand. Sure, you can find plenty of cheap, sugary, fake chocolate, but not GOOD, real chocolate. So it was a real treat. Wine is especially difficult and expensive in Thailand. And I LOVE wine. I’d been looking forward to my birthday for the sole reason that I was going to treat myself to a glass, but Faren beat me to it, with an entire bottle! We did not come close to drinking half of it, so I am saving the rest for another special occasion.

posing with some lady-boys ---->

While we drank wine and ate chocolate, Faren and I prepared to go dine at a nice restaurant. We rarely have nice dinners on our Thai teachers’ salary, so we were already pretty excited. But we had no idea what an experience it would prove to be. We got all dolled up, which for two young white attractive females in a place like Phuket town (i.e. a place where white women are rare), translates into a whole lot of attention. We were treated like celebrities--even on the walk TO the restaurant. People were stopping, looking, waving excitedly. At the restaurant, we told the waitress it was my birthday. She said she would do something special, but we were still a bit skeptical. We had seen this sort of thing fall through too many times before in Thailand. But, to our surprise, she certainly did do something “special”! They turned off all the lights (mostly lanterns and Christmas-type white lights on trees as we were outside), turned on loud Happy Birthday music on the speakers, and waited just long enough so that the entire restaurant became a little confused. Suddenly, all the waitresses emerged with sparklers and a gigantic fruit plate with candles. It was quite a spectacle! To add to the experience, at least four times through out the night the waitress approached us and told us that a table of people basically "requested our company" and wanted us to come meet them. And of course we did not want to be rude or give ferrang women a bad name, so we spent quite a bit of time speaking broken English with Thai people. We convinced the waitress to sell us wine by the glass after she had insisted they only sell it by the bottle. Then, we proceeded to bargain down the price for two glasses! She told us 150 baht for one glass (about $5) so we offered 200 baht for two glasses, which (to our surprise) worked. Pretty amusing that we negotiated in a nice restaurant (aren’t you proud, mom and dad?). After escaping from the restaurant and managing to only give up our phone number one time, we stopped at a bar on the way home. It was my birthday, after all. Like almost all bars around here, there was live music. The singer sang “Happy Birthday” and dedicated a few other songs to me. We were dancing in front of the stage to a Shakira song when she started singing "I will survive." Faren and I looked at each other and could not contain our excitement about that song since we love to sing it ourselves. The singer caught our enthusiasm and pulled us onstage to sing with her! We were more than a little embarrassed. The funny thing was that we had it in our heads that we were going to sing that night. We just thought it would be at a karaoke bar, not with a full band behind us. I could not have asked for more on my 22nd birthday.

So, that is my update. I have left out way too many things about everything. There is so much more I want to share with my loved-ones and even more I want to record for my own history. These stories will reveal themselves with time. Just wait until I get home. :)